Posts by Aunt Fancy

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Failure

by backformore in

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so tonight just sucks ad i just want to vent to people who don't know me irl.. my wife and i have two kids.

i was still in when we got together but my wife never was.

when we actually got married i moved out of my parents place and never went back to a kingdom hall again.

Aunt Fancy

I have no idea how old you are but it is not unusual for parents to have children in their late 30's and even 40's. I would not worry about that unless her doctors are concerned for health reasons.

I would not do the IVF with a history of breast cancer especially if she has the type that is hormone driven, her doctor should have told her if that is the case. Some breast cancer can be driven by up to three hormones and taking those drugs are like giving the cancer vitamins. My doctor told me to stay away from all hormones because of that, I even try to stay away from things that have bpa in them because they can act as hormones. Even though your wife is in remission and they got it all she still needs to be careful because there is always that percentage that it can come back.

Going the route you went through for adoption can bring heartache as you experienced, you can always go through a reputable adoption agency.

I would suggest you meet with your wife's doctors and discuss what would be safe and healthy for her body because of her history. There is also another thing you can look forward to and that is grandchildren! They will bring you so much joy when the time is right, again I am not sure how old your children are.

I hope you find the best solution for your family.

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I can't get in through my computer

by Aunt Fancy in

simon, i have been trying to log on using my computer for two days and it is not letting me in.

i have tried a couple of different passwords and even tried to have it send me my password but it always comes back that there is an error.

i do not want to reregister.

Aunt Fancy

Thanks. I am using my IPhone and I Pad. I was able to get in on Internet Explorer but not Chrome. I wasn't sure if there was a problem with the site because I was getting an error message from this site when I requested the password. I will try refreshing the cookies.

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A rose by any other name..............

by sparrowdown in

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i'm curious, why and how did you choose your username?.

does it hold any special significance for you, is there a share-able back story?.

for me sparrowdown is a playful reference to matt 10:29 and the title of the movie black hawk down.. matt 10:29 was my go-to scrip to "prove" that god cares about us as individuals.

Aunt Fancy

I am a girly girl and I love makeup, jewelry, fashion and all of that fun stuff. My niece was about 4 years old at the time, she looked at me one day and called me Aunt Fancy and it stuck.

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My JW mom is now willing to "listen" to our side...Need advice pls

by 2pink in

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my husband and i (both born in jws with extended family all "in" except for one of my sisters who left when we did) left the church 5 years ago.

we did not fade, we just didn't believe it anymore, told our families so and left.

obviously, big drama in our family after this, messy feelings, etc.

Aunt Fancy

There are a lot of great points. My only advice is to only give one or two points right now and you can do more later. Her brain will shut down if you give her too much to think about. Also you can go on JWfacts.com for some great information because he has so many great points that you can use. I hope it all goes well for you. Your Mom just might wake up since she is willing to listen. We were in our late 50's when we woke up so it is never too late for anyone who is still breathing!

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I can't get in through my computer

by Aunt Fancy in

simon, i have been trying to log on using my computer for two days and it is not letting me in.

i have tried a couple of different passwords and even tried to have it send me my password but it always comes back that there is an error.

i do not want to reregister.

Aunt Fancy

Simon, I have been trying to log on using my computer for two days and it is not letting me in. I have tried a couple of different passwords and even tried to have it send me my password but it always comes back that there is an error. if you could help me with this I would appreciate it. I do not want to reregister. Thanks!

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1200 requests for bible study a day

by purrpurr in

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apparently the .org site is getting 1200 bible study requests per day.

well that's what they claim anyway.

dos anyone think this is true?.

Aunt Fancy

How many demonstrations did they do on how to start a door step bible study? They would go out and read out of the book they were offering and call that a bible study and yet how many of those they classified as a bible study did they get back in contact for the second one? Very few. I would never believe the numbers they are giving out because I will bet most won't answer their doors or phones when they call on them. If they were having such success they would be bringing in a large amount of people and they are not.

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I'm out- Random thoughts on leaving as I look in the rear view mirror

by Skinnedsheep in

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it is amazing to look back at three years and see the journey that we have taken.

i went from being an elder to fading completely in the course of those three years.

along the way i am happy to say that my lovely wife woke up and realized that the truth is nothing but a lie.

Aunt Fancy

Great story, I can relate to everything you said because it is very simular to ours. Isn't it amazing that they drive around for hours trying to find someone to talk to yet they can't check up on their own because they can't count the time. I have always had a problem With this. It sure doesn't promote brotherly love.

It is great you got your wife and children out with you, your children will thank you someday for freeing them of this so called religion. I was able to get my husband out too and our life is so much happier. We faded 2 years ago but a week ago I sent in my DA letter because I needed to have closure and tell them exactly how I felt about them because I did not want my name tied to them.

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What happy, wonderful thing happened to you since you left the "truth"?

by Jeannette in

more than one thing for me, but i have learned to enjoy festivals, and just enjoying free time.

it's not that the org wouldn't allow it, i just felt i shouldn't.

there are others, of course, and i really have been happier and good things have come my way since i left.

Aunt Fancy

BU2B my life was falling apart while I was in!! My life is so happy now and life is truly great. I think it is what you make of it and when all you hear is negative talk about how awful "this system" is then of course you will not be happy. It takes courage to walk away and start a new life but I can honestly say it is worth it. I just wish I would have done it sooner.

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What happy, wonderful thing happened to you since you left the "truth"?

by Jeannette in

more than one thing for me, but i have learned to enjoy festivals, and just enjoying free time.

it's not that the org wouldn't allow it, i just felt i shouldn't.

there are others, of course, and i really have been happier and good things have come my way since i left.

Aunt Fancy

My husband and I came out together so we have been able to do more traveling which we enjoy but always had to worry about what others would say if we missed too many meetings. I started bowling with a very nice group of women. My husband use to play guitars and write songs and had put it down for years because he was an elder and involved in the KH building projects so he joined a couple of groups that play music. Most of the guys in the group are around his age and he has made some really nice friendships. He has written some new songs and presented one to a guy looking for new songs to publish. He started playing racketball with a group of guys and he enjoys that.

The best thing that happened to me, I was able to get much closer to my family and spend holidays with them and do fun things together. I see the joy and happiness on my parents faces whenever I am with them and that brings me so much happiness. I am so thankful I have such a close relationship with them now that I am out of the cult because being in fractured it.

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Curious..What advice will you receive, religious marriage counsel vs certified marriage counsel ?

by jam in

for example, abusiveness in the relationship.

us here were counsel by someone affiliated with some religion.

organization, a minister..most likely you were told, to pray on it... but if the husband is beating the living day-light out of his wife,.

Aunt Fancy

Jam, I am sorry your sister had to live that way. So many women don't know how to walk away and it makes it even harder when you have the elders instructing you to stay and that it is your fault. Many ministers have training and education to learn how to help their people but not the JW's. That is why these men can be so dangerous to others because they are giving them instructions that can harm them.